Tufts University Regulates Dorm Sex

[Admiraldinty]

Dorm rooms doubling as steamy love huts have Tufts University throwing cold water on sex on campus - at least when horny students let it all hang out in front of red-faced roommates.

“You may not engage in sexual activity while your roommate is present in the room,” tuts Tufts’ 2009-10 guest policy, newly revised in response to student gripes about rambunctious roomies and their raunchy romps.

http://bostonherald.com/news/regiona...ie_is_present/


Dear Alma Mater...

[Roadie]

“You may not engage in sexual activity while your roommate is present in the room,”

What if your roommate is the person you want to NFBSK?

[Artemis]

Or if he likes to watch?

[Amigone201]

I was about to come in here all huffy and steaming about students' privacy rights, but that's actually a not-bad regulation.

[Banrion]

It makes me sad that these kind of rules need to be put in writing. When I was living in a dorm situation, this was a given. There were many different systems utilized by roommates to signal when such was occurring, and usually only became a problem if one roommate was sexiling the other roommate frequently or for extended periods of time.

[woodness03]

Originally Posted by Amigone201

I was about to come in here all huffy and steaming about students' privacy rights, but that's actually a not-bad regulation.

Does it really need to be a regulation? Do students really need this policy in order to respect their roommates?

[Mama Duck]

Originally Posted by woodness03

Does it really need to be a regulation? Do students really need this policy in order to respect their roommates?

One should hope not, but apparently they do.

[Bill]

Originally Posted by Amigone201

I was about to come in here all huffy and steaming about students' privacy rights, but that's actually a not-bad regulation.

I actually like this rule. If anything it sems to support students' privacy rights (that is, the rights of the other person involved).

I recall another college had a rule against "overnight guests" and people made fun of it, but as I understand it the rule was a response to student demand.

If I'm paying for a room, in college-affiliated housing, it's my room as much as it is anyone else's, and my right to the room should take precedence over somebody's "right" to certain activities. And I would refuse to find another place to sleep for the night. I would *not* allow someone to interfere with my sleep or my study time.

Thanks.

Bill

[Amigone201]

Originally Posted by Bill

If I'm paying for a room, in college-affiliated housing, it's my room as much as it is anyone else's, and my right to the room should take precedence over somebody's "right" to certain activities. And I would refuse to find another place to sleep for the night. I would *not* allow someone to interfere with my sleep or my study time.

I wouldn't either, but maybe on a weekend, I might go somewhere else out of courtesy. Also, maybe quid pro quo, in case I ever wanted to bring a girl home.

Luckily, the issue never came up as no guy I ever roomed with had a girl over. My first roommate didn't believe in premarital sex, and my second roommate, well, couldn't find a girl who believed in premarital sex with HIM

[Syllavus]

Ugh. My first roommate in high school would have most definitely had sex with her boyfriend while I was in the room if I had let her, but I put my foot down about it. I was gone all weekend so she could have that time to herself. I had no interest in being present while the two of them were bumping uglies. However I doubt this policy will have much of an effect on the people who are doing this in-spite of their roommates complaints. If someone doesn't care about someone else's boundaries, they're going to do it whether it's against the rules or not.

[PatYoung]

Originally Posted by Syllavus

If someone doesn't care about someone else's boundaries, they're going to do it whether it's against the rules or not.

But it at least gives the university a basis for hearing a complaint.

I think most students are courteous on this issue, but how many of us can recall waking up to find our roommates having sex under the assumption that snoring signified consent?

[kismet]

All of my college roommates except one worked on the assumption that sharing a bed was OK with others present, but all sexual activity should happen in private and everyone else being asleep did NOT count as private. We would make arrangements to give someone privacy on request, and actual schedules just always allowed for alone time anyway.

My one roommate who DIDN'T refrain from sexual activity with others in the room? She was a heavy girl with a heavy guy and we shared a BUNK BED!!! That was extremely unpleasant, seriously. I can see a rule about that.

[woodness03]

Originally Posted by PatYoung

But it at least gives the university a basis for hearing a complaint.

This is why I don't mind there being a rule. I think it is ridiculous it needs to exist, but if people can't police themselves and show others respect....what do you expect will happen?

[Artemis]

Originally Posted by kismet

All of my college roommates except one worked on the assumption that sharing a bed was OK with others present, but all sexual activity should happen in private and everyone else being asleep did NOT count as private. We would make arrangements to give someone privacy on request, and actual schedules just always allowed for alone time anyway.

My one roommate who DIDN'T refrain from sexual activity with others in the room? She was a heavy girl with a heavy guy and we shared a BUNK BED!!! That was extremely unpleasant, seriously. I can see a rule about that.

Creepy! I'm glad my one roommate never brought home anyone.

[remigo]

Originally Posted by kismet

My one roommate who DIDN'T refrain from sexual activity with others in the room? She was a heavy girl with a heavy guy and we shared a BUNK BED!!! That was extremely unpleasant, seriously. I can see a rule about that.

Ha! Tell me at least that she was on the bottom, for safety's sake!

[Sister Ray]

Originally Posted by Artemis

Creepy! I'm glad my one roommate never brought home anyone.

I had one that tried to kick me out of the room at midnight so she and her boyfriend could have sex. I said that I wasn't leaving. She never tried to do so in my presence again, and if she had I'd have given her twenty bucks and told her to go to a hotel.

Sister "and tufts has a lot less to do around their campus than my school did" Ray

[dfresh]

Originally Posted by remigo

Ha! Tell me at least that she was on the bottom, for safety's sake!

My roommate in that situation was in the top bunk. Um, we had words in the morning (I pretended to be asleep at the time since I felt bad for his girlfriend.)

[kismet]

Yes, she was in the bottom bunk at the time. I pretended to be asleep because i was horrified. She started the year in the top bunk and there were logistical issues so we traded. But at least she had the good sense to refrain from sex on the top bunk-I could have been killed!

ETA: Oh, and our university didn't have a sex policy, although it technically had a rule that there would be no visitors in rooms after midnight in the dorms. I am sure a sex policy would have been ignored to an equal extent.

[Ramblin' Dave]

My freshman-year roommate was a major-league Cassanova, but to his credit he never sexiled me. I did have friends who weren't so lucky. Regarding the OP, though, I'll join the others in being surprised they needed to put this in writing.

[Troberg]

Do they really need a rule for this, now that the room mate can buy a webcam for less money than what can usually be found in the filter of the washing machine, which would probably solve the problem pretty darn quick?