How not to cheat on one's partner: all you need is love

[snopes]

Numerous studies have shown that humans are not especially self-restrained when it comes to gratification. We prefer to indulge in pleasure when opportunity arises.

So why do people in stable relationships so often pass up the chance for a little sexual gratification on the side, even if they can get away with it?

http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20080319...t_080319122536

[A Turtle Named Mack]

Isn't this article pretty much what Laura Schlessinger was saying - that if (g)you put a modicum of effort into being appealing and pleasant for (g)your SO, that SO will not be anywhere near so likely to 'cheat'?

I suppose one could make that argument, Turtle. However, the article represents a scientific study and is therefore not meant to be in and of itself prescriptive. It's just reporting what the findings are rather than, in the case of Laura, making ludicrous assessments of how people in relationships should act.

One could just as easily say that this report can help those with a lustful eye reign themselves in for future relationships. Perhaps by focusing on the love you have for your SO you can chase away temptuous thoughts as a means of self-discipline. No need to place the onus on anyone but yourself, generally speaking.

Gadon,

[Lainie]

Originally Posted by A Turtle Named Mack

Isn't this article pretty much what Laura Schlessinger was saying - that if (g)you put a modicum of effort into being appealing and pleasant for (g)your SO, that SO will not be anywhere near so likely to 'cheat'?

She didn't say "g-you," she said women. The study was a bit more even-handed. And I wouldn't call her having sex when he wants it and she doesn't "a modicum of effort," either.

[KROE]

And I wouldn't call her having sex when he wants it and she doesn't "a modicum of effort," either.

I'd have to agree.