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Old 17 December 2013, 08:12 AM
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Default Is going baby-crazy a normal grief response?

I've never wanted kids. I think they're cute and all, but I've just never felt the need to have any of my own. My siblings and cousins seem to feel the same way - we're all in our mid-to-late twenties, and there are no signs of babies on the horizon.

Last week, my uncle was diagnosed with cancer. The prognosis is not good. After I took some time to process the news, one thought popped into my head: "This family just keeps getting smaller and smaller." We've suffered some losses in the last few years. I think my uncle's illness has finally driven one fact through my thick skull: the older members of my family will all eventually die. As will the younger members, of course.

Suddenly, for the first time in my life, I'm daydreaming about babies. It just feels like my family could use some new blood. If nothing else, we could use some good news. I keep thinking about having a little kid and all the things I could teach them. I could teach them all the funny stories from my family, all the lessons we've learned.

I'm not in an even remotely good position to start a family. Also, I'm pretty sure that these baby-having urges will fade over time.

I'm just curious. Has anyone else out there dealt with this kind of issue? Is it normal to get all baby-crazy when a family member gets sick? I'm not in any danger of running out and getting pregnant or anything. I'd just like to know if anyone has dealt with a similar issue.

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Old 17 December 2013, 09:24 AM
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I think that wanting a validation of life after a loss is a very common thing. It manifests in many ways. In your case, it's baby fever. For others, it's wanting to go out and do something that makes them feel "more alive."
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Old 17 December 2013, 02:19 PM
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It would not surprise me to find out this type of thing is very common. Affirmation of the continuation of life and all that.

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