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Old 11 July 2013, 02:50 PM
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i'm seeing heaps of criticism of the woman who was harassed and total silence regarding the man who harassed her.
I know that this is common here but just because people aren't heaping criticism on a criminal who's crime is pretty much universally (here at least) considered to be wrong doesn't mean they are somehow condoning him, nor is this blaming the victim as nobody is arguing that she did something somehow to warrant his harassment, they are discussion a secondary action that is (in many's opinion it seems) morally wrong, or ambiguous at best, and possibly illegal.


Count me among those who isn't sure her response is the right way to go, and possibly criminal (regardless of your intention, if you send an unwanted sexually explicit picture to another person are you committing a crime of some kind?)

What she should have done is go to the police, if she wanted to get back at him I'd be.. Sort of ok with her putting his picture and info online (though the morality starts to get blurry), I certainly wouldn't feel sorry for the guy in any case.

But involving somebody who had nothing to do with it in the whole thing doesn't seem right, she could care less how this made his mother feel, just so long as it hurt the guy. This wasn't about fixing the guy, or making sure his mother knew so she could do something, this was about hurting the guy who hurt her and if somebody totally innocent in the whole thing gets hurt then damn the torpedoes.
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Old 11 July 2013, 03:14 PM
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Count me among those who isn't sure her response is the right way to go, and possibly criminal (regardless of your intention, if you send an unwanted sexually explicit picture to another person are you committing a crime of some kind?
Was it ever clear she actually sent the picture? The article I read said she sent screen shots of the conversation she was having with El Creepo.
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Old 11 July 2013, 04:17 PM
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Was it ever clear she actually sent the picture? The article I read said she sent screen shots of the conversation she was having with El Creepo.
As was mentionned upthread, screenshots of the conversation would probably have included the pictures.

For my part, I think that resending an image you find offensive, is kind of hypocritical. If you think it's bad, then surely it's not ok to send it on, unless the person you're sending it on to is the law enforcement officer investigating and they ask for the evidence from you.

I see it somewhat similar to teens passing around explicit pictures of one of their schoolmates (taken when they were drunk, or sent to a ex-boyfriend and then leaked to the rest of the school, etc...) being charged with child pornography.

If the initial image is illegal/harassing/etc, forwarding it to anyone does not make it any less so.
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Old 11 July 2013, 04:40 PM
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Once a person is an adult, nobody has any business involving that person's mother in trying to punish or control the person. That's what the police are for.

The appropriate response would have been to block him in every way she could online, then make a report to the police.

If he had been a minor, I would be all for notifying both his parents, and then providing the screen shots as proof upon request. However, as he is not a minor, his mother is no longer responsible for his behavior, and probably has little to no control over what he does. It's inconceivable to me that anyone would think this was an appropriate or effective way to deal with the situation.
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Old 11 July 2013, 04:44 PM
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It's possible she knows full well her son is a creep, in which case sending her the screen shots would just rub salt in the wound. Alternatively, she may be a creep herself and not care if her son is one. Involving her is inappropriate and unconstructive.
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