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Old 11 December 2014, 09:29 PM
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Default My grandfather died

It's been a long time coming: he's had Parkinson's for years. He'd been unable to care for himself at all for the past few years and several weeks ago became completely bedridden and stopped eating solid food. He recently stopped even waking up for more than a couple of minutes per day and was non-responsive to external stimuli.

I'm sad, of course, but for the most part I'm relieved: this has been a very long and painful ordeal for my whole family that's now over. I think I did most of my grieving already: it's been something like a year since he recognized me so I've been feeling like he was already dead, even if his body was still around the person wasn't.
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Old 11 December 2014, 11:41 PM
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I'm sorry for the loss of your grandfather, ch, and I'm glad he is at peace.
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Old 11 December 2014, 11:47 PM
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crocoduck_hunter, I am so sorry that you, your grandfather, and his family and friends had to go through that.

And yes: you must have been grieving for quite some time now. It's not surprising that relief is one of the things you are now feeling.
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Old 11 December 2014, 11:50 PM
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I am sorry for the lose but I get the relief you feel also. Like you said you have done your grieving. Having someone that sick for so long effects the whole family. I know this from personal experience. And he hardly had quality of life.
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Old 12 December 2014, 12:24 AM
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I'm sorry for your loss but glad for his and your peace.
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Old 12 December 2014, 12:48 AM
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Sorry to hear that, crocoduck_hunter... but I totally understand the relief. I felt a similar way when my granny died. That is not a bad way to feel.
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Old 12 December 2014, 12:53 AM
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My condolences. As others have said, what you're feeling is perfectly natural.
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Old 12 December 2014, 01:15 PM
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I'm so sorry. I hope you and your family find peace and many fond memories.
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Old 12 December 2014, 02:09 PM
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I'm very sorry for your loss. Even when you know it's time, it's hard to let go.

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Old 12 December 2014, 02:33 PM
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FWIW, my experience since my mother died is that I remember how she was the last year or two less and less, and remember her earlier, healthier, happier self much better. It makes me miss her more, but it's still a good thing.
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Old 12 December 2014, 04:42 PM
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My sincere condolences, crocoduck_hunter. I also understand the relief. A friend of mine had a wife (also a friend) who had Alzheimer's and the last two years of her life she was completely unresponsive and didn't know him. Just a couple days before she died he and I were talking and he said he'd been grieving for the last two years and was just waiting for the end. When she passed away he told me that he was really done grieving and could now be glad for her.

I hope memories of good times with your grandfather will give you comfort through this difficult time.
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My condolences, crocoduck_hunter. I'm sorry for your loss.
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Old 14 December 2014, 09:19 AM
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My condolences to you & your family Mr. Croc.
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Old 14 December 2014, 04:01 PM
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My deepest sympathies to you and your family. May you all experience comfort and peace.
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Old 14 December 2014, 04:30 PM
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Thanks for all the support, everybody.

I'm doing all right, it's my dad (very surprisingly: I've never seen him cry before), aunt, and grandmother who are really the most affected.
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I am sorry for your loss CH.
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