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Old 01 May 2013, 10:03 AM
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Children who use self-deprecating humour among their peers are more likely to be bullied, researchers say.

A study from the University of Keele has examined links between bullying and different styles of playground humour.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-22354326

As a person who was bullied at school I can see some truth in this. I still tend to put myself down.
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Old 01 May 2013, 10:11 AM
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I recall making those sort of jokes as a desperate attempt to "join in" with being bullied, since apparently insulting me was the amusement of the moment.
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Old 01 May 2013, 10:18 AM
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I did that as well, hoping that this would end the jokes, but the report - and my experience - suggests that this just made things worse.
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Old 01 May 2013, 10:24 AM
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Yeah, it certainly didn't make things better.

I wonder - is the problem making the "jokes", or is it the underlying issue of believing them? I would still e.g. joke about being fat/stupid/wrong, but now, while I might kinda believe it, I also know it's not entirely true. That changes the humour somewhat, as of course does being an adult.
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Old 01 May 2013, 05:38 PM
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I hate to make a "me too" post, but when I was in middle school I did that too. It was probably an attempt to fit in or the old cliche about getting them to laugh "with you" rather than "at you". But really all it did was encourage the other kids to make the same jokes about me.
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Self-depreciating humor is, IME, sometimes a defense mechanism.
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I also think we're looking at the consequence rather than the cause. I'd like to see a longitudinal study on this.
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I use a lot of self-deprecating humour as a defense mechanism... Don't think it helped me as a kid, but I don't know what would have. My self esteem is still very poor.
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I was bullied in grade school, and developed a pretty biting sense of humor, including self-depreciating. I found that if I made the fat joke before they did, it kind of took the wind out of their sails. Not ideal, but it beat crying in a corner.
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I'm also one of those who was bullied, and made jokes about myself in a way to try to deflect it. Ultimately what stopped the bullying was my family moving and I was able to go to a new middle school in the 8th grade, and a different high school from where I might have gone to.
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*Slowly raises hand* Bullied, and developped self-deprecating humour as well. I used to do it a LOT, until friends and fellow students told me loudly and clearly to stop doing it. I still lapse into that sort of humour every now and then, but getting better.
To me, the jokes felt like a slight exaggeration of the truth; I filmly believe(d) I was dumb/incompetent/obese. Okay, the last one was actually true, but the problem might've been bigger (Heh) in my head.
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