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Old 20 June 2013, 08:28 PM
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I'm sorry, Elkhound. It's never an easy decision to make, even when you know it's the right one.

*hugs*
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Old 21 June 2013, 01:57 AM
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I'm sorry, Elkhound. It's never an easy decision to make, even when you know it's the right one.

*hugs*
No, it isn't easy. But if it were too easy, one might do it prematurely.
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Old 21 June 2013, 02:33 AM
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Condolences on your loss. I'm so sorry.
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Old 21 June 2013, 04:11 AM
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Elkhound, like everyone else here, I am sorry for your loss. Hugs and condolences.
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Old 21 June 2013, 04:16 AM
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I'm so sorry. Two weeks ago I had to make the same decision. It still hurts so much. My Roddy cat was 18 years old and the best friend I ever had. Maybe he and Zane are chasing mice on the rainbow bridge together.
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Old 21 June 2013, 04:35 AM
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So sorry, Elkhound. It is wonderful and ultimately painful and, yet, still amazing to have these dear creatures that keep us company and love us unconditionally. Mourn as long as you need to.
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Old 21 June 2013, 02:59 PM
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Mornings are hard. He always wanted to cuddle in the morning. Every time I pass by one of his favorite napping places, I look and expect to see him. Evenings are hard; he always wanted a lap-fix after dinner. Night is hard; he always wanted a bit of a cuddle after I went to bed, even when he didn't stay there all night.

I know I did the right thing, I know he was suffering and there was no way to make him better. I know that there was nothing else to be done.

Pastor will allow me to put his ashes in the same columbarium niche with my father's ashes; seeing that Zane was father's cat before he was mine, that is fitting.
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Old 21 June 2013, 07:00 PM
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I think that's very fitting.
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Old 21 June 2013, 07:01 PM
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Elkhound, I think that's a lovely idea, and bless your Pastor for allowing it.
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Old 21 June 2013, 07:28 PM
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Sorry to hear about your loss, it is always hard to lose our fur buddies.

Just for curiosity, what color was Zane?
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Old 21 June 2013, 07:30 PM
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You have my deepest sympathies for your loss. My 17 year old cat Max crossed that bridge in April and I am still struck by those sudden expectations you describe and of course that causes the deepest mourning and tears.

The pain you feel is quite deep and quite real, despite some who might say "It was only a cat". That is a lie. These creatures are our friends, companions and comforts and you made the best decision for Zane.

Your final resting place decision is elegant and thoughtful. You and Zane were lucky to have each other.


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Old 21 June 2013, 08:24 PM
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My deepest condolences for your loss, Elkhound.


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Old 22 June 2013, 02:47 PM
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Just for curiosity, what color was Zane?
Gray, of course. Why do you think we called him "Zane"? (;-))
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Old 24 June 2013, 01:08 AM
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Today was hard. Sunday afternoons I'd generally take a nap---with a furry sleep aid.

The memorial service is at 10:30 on Tuesday. The Scripture is Gen. 9:8-17.
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Old 24 June 2013, 01:11 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss, Elkhound.
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Old 24 June 2013, 02:29 AM
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despite some who might say "It was only a cat".

Morning
Screw them--what do they know? I understand that non-pet owners don't get it, but they can at least understand that a pet means something to its owner/employee. It's not 'just a cat/dog/bird/etc', a pet is your friend, confidant, sleeping buddy, etc.

Elkhound--how nice of your pastor to allow Zane's ashes to be placed with your father's.
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Old 25 June 2013, 05:35 PM
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The service was lovely, and a great many more friends were able to attend than I thought would be able to.

I feel much better. Am I still sad? Yes. Do I miss him? Yes. But I'm no longer inclined to burst into tears at the drop of a hat. The apartment is very empty, but I can look at his sleeping places or where his litter box was without feeling like I'm being kicked in the gut.
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Old 27 June 2013, 04:08 PM
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I got the wierdest feeling last night that he was right next to me. I almost spoke, but then remembered---and although I was sad about it, I didn't want to bawl or blubber. It was almost as though he had said to St. Francis, "How can my human ever manage without me to look after him? Please, can I go back down for a bit just to see that he's OK?"
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Old 26 July 2013, 02:53 AM
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I've had some bad times lately. Zane having been my father's cat before he passed, having Zane around gave me a bit of father to hold onto, which in turn gave me a bit of mother. Now that Zane is gone, it is like also loosing my parents again.

I'm crying again at the drop of a hat.

I want my mommy, I want my daddy, and I want my kitty!
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Old 26 July 2013, 03:17 AM
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Elkhound, hang in there!

-- I had more to say, but can't come up with a way to phrase it that I'm not afraid is going to sound wrong. So maybe I'll just leave it as: weird people on the Internet are thinking of you; and hoping that it helps.
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